When the book The Secret by Rhonda Byrne came out in 2006, people around the world were excited by this theory. According to Byrne, The Law of Attraction states that when we want something, we need to send our desire for it out into the universe and stay very positive (which will increase our energy frequency) to draw our desired outcome to us. And presto, it is ours! For years, I have subscribed to this way of thinking or to use self-help terms, I will say ‘manifesting.’

And then one day recently, I changed my mind.